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These self-love quotes are for you, girls and women of the world. Every day is a Women’s Day!
You can hug yourself and say nice things to yourself. You can treat yourself with kindness, and show yourself some love without feeling guilty.
Loving yourself lets you love others better. You become more aware of your needs, strengths, and disinterests. This self-awareness helps you understand what you want and do not want from relationships.
Three rules of self-love:
- Treat yourself with kindness β the same kindness you’d offer your best friend forever.
- Forgive yourself. Mistakes and regrets are a part of being human β they do not disqualify you from loving yourself.
- Set boundaries in your relationships. Self-love is not just cutting toxic people from your life, but also unbecoming the version of yourself who allowed that relationship to continue.
So, love the person who’ll always live in your house. Be the one you’ll fall in love with every day.
50 Powerful Self-Love Quotes For Girls And Women
Write some of these self-love notes on stick-ons, and put them around your living and working space. They will remind you to be less critical of yourself and more appreciative of your efforts.
Let’s begin with the greatest self-love message that comes from Janis Joplin, the first lady of rock ‘n’ roll:
βDonβt compromise yourself. Youβre all youβve got.β β Janis Joplin
50 Self-Love Quotes For Her
Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. β Lucille Ball
Self love is as much about discipline, honesty with oneself, accountability, reframing limiting beliefs, removing excuses, and prioritizing action, as it is about romanticizing your life, treating yourself, and being a silly goose β both energies are essential. β Femme Muse
To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness. β Robert Morely
Self-love is the balance between accepting yourself as you are while knowing you deserve better, and then working towards it. β Vex King
Be gentle with yourself, learn to love yourself, to forgive yourself, for only as we have the right attitude toward ourselves can we have the right attitude toward others. β Wilfred Peterson
Know who you are. Know what you want. Know what you deserve. And donβt settle for less. β Tony Gaskins
If you can learn to love yourself and all your flaws, you can love other people so much better. And that makes you so happy. β Kristin Chenoweth
To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. β Oscar Wilde
If you don’t know what to pursue in life right now, pursue yourself. Pursue becoming the healthiest, happiest, most healed, most present, most confident version of yourself. Then the right path will reveal itself. β Unknown
Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and wonβt accept. β Anna Taylor
In order to love who you are, you cannot hate the experience that shaped you. β Andrea Dykstra
No other love, no matter how genuine it is, can fulfill oneβs heart better than unconditional self-love. β Edmond Mbiaka
If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone else. β Barbara De Angelis
I am who I am. Not who you think I am. Not who you want me to be. I am me. β Brigitte Nicole
There are plenty of places in which you will face rejection; the mirrorβ¦ should not be one of them. β N.R. Shephard
Do you put yourself first? Do you trust your instincts? Do you believe in your worth? If youβre unsure of your answers, maybe itβs time to step outside your comfort zone and discover who you truly are. Self–love is a journey of knowing your worth, trusting your instincts, and choosing yourself. Growth begins when you do. Are you ready? β Tara
Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions. β Pema Chodron
Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives. β Louise L. Hay
Let go of the need to be liked by everyone. Trust that you are already enough, just as you are. Let go of the people who make you feel small or unworthy. Love yourself in all phases, not just when you feel βperfect.β β Dia Seltentreich
A simple self love habit is to remember to return and focus your energy and attention to the present moment. Our minds spend too much time in the past and our hearts spend too much time in the future, creating unnecessary pain, stress, and unhealthy attachments based on. β Unknown
If there’s one thing I’m willing to bet on, it’s myself. β BeyonceΜ
To accept ourselves as we are, means to value our imperfections as much as our perfections. β Sandra Bierig
You don’t have to be pretty. You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend or spouse or partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. β Erin McKean
You have to learn to get up from the table when love is no longer being served. β Nina Simone
Embrace the glorious mess that you are. β Elizabeth Gilbert (author of the 10-million-copies bestseller Eat, Pray, Love)
I am not afraid of storms, for I am learning how to sail my ship. β Louisa May Alcott
When you love yourself, you release the weight of others’ opinions. Self-love frees you from the chains of external expectations. True freedom starts within. β Panache Desai
If you have the ability to love, love yourself first. β Charles Bukowski
I am mine. Before I am EVER anyone else’s. β Nayyirah Waheed
When a woman becomes her own best friend, life is easier. β Diane Von Furstenberg
Often we are reluctant to promote self-love, mostly because we confuse it with selfishness. Since we are humans, we ought to have a healthy love for ourselves; it is from this fount that love flows out to others. β Mason Olds
Self-love begins when we observe our actions and words with compassion as if we were our own best friend. β Sara M Bosworth
Self–love sets the standard for every relationship in your life. How you treat yourself teaches others how to treat you. β Anon
I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do. β BrenΓ© Brown
You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. β Buddha
Never starve yourself of self-love. β Anon
Eat like you love yourself. Move like you love yourself. Speak like you love yourself. Act like you love yourself. Love yourself. β Tara Stiles
Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself. β Harvey Fierstein
To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven. Don’t wait until you die. If you wait, you die now. If you love, you live now. β Alan Cohen
Never dull your shine for somebody else. β Tyra Banks
You canβt pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first. β Norm Kelly
Love yourself unconditionally, just as you love those closest to you despite their faults. β Les Brown
Be yourself. No one can say you’re doing it wrong. β Charles M. Schulz
You can search the whole world for someone who deserves your love more than you, but you won’t find that person. β Inspired by Buddha
I don’t like myself, I’m crazy about myself. β May West
You have to believe in yourself when no one else does β that makes you a winner right here. β Venus Williams (the only tennis player to have won a medal at 4 Olympic Games).
Choose every day to forgive yourself. You are human, flawed, and most of all worthy of love. β Alison Malee
You know, itβs kind of sad to say this, but itβs honestly taken me to 46 to be able to look at myself and say, βI am pretty.β With no makeup, hair uncurled, and zero filter. I wish people could see their beauty from birth. We all deserve that kind of self love. β Stacia Kaywood
You carry so much love in your heart. Give some to yourself. β r.z.
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind. β Bernard M. Baruch
Life β¦ puts you in touch with people you need to meet β to help you, to hurt you, to leave you, to love you, and to gradually strengthen you into the person you were meant to become. β Robert Tew
So plant your own gardens and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. β Jorge Luis Borges
βHow you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.β β Rupi Kaur
I have so much love in my heart to give; I have to remember to save some for myself. β Ericka Leigh
Who will you love if not yourself? β¦ You will not love anyone or anything until those eyes in the mirror soften up and embrace the beauty that is already within. β Vironika Tugaleva
About all you can do in life is be who you are. Some people will love you for you. Most will love you for what you can do for them, and some won’t like you at all. β Rita Mae Brown
Self-Love Is Not Narcissism
Self-love is accepting and caring for yourself without hurting others or being insensitive to other people’s feelings and pains.
Narcissism is toxic self-obsession, and it tries to satisfy the narcissist at the cost of others’ peace.
Self-Love Is Not Selfish Love
Self-love is not selfish love because:
- Self-love is a form of self-respect, whereas selfish love often centers solely on what one gain from someone, without any thought for balance or reciprocal empathy.
- Self-love is about healthy boundaries, knowing when to say “no” to things that may cause harm and “yes” to what fosters wellbeing. Selfish love disregards the boundaries of others by imposing oneβs will or needs on them.
- Self-love is an ongoing journey of self-discovery, acceptance, and improvement. While selfish love is fixed on self-glorification, lacking the guts to acknowledge one’s flaws or the desire to improve.
Self-love is not selfish-love. It is not a zero-sum game. You can love yourself while also loving others.
[In a zero-sum transaction, one person’s gain is another person’s loss.]
Why do women feel guilty about loving themselves?
Women should celebrate their failures, praise their efforts, and have pure love for themselves.
When women don’t meet their own expectations, they often blame themselves. This is because, for centuries, men have had more power in society.
When they need self-love and self-celebration, women often replace self-esteem with self-doubt, making it difficult to embrace themselves for who they are.
Women should give themselves a loving hug when things go wrong. Those who love themselves can pursue goals with passion and persistence.
Self-love means forgiving yourself and treating yourself with the love and empathy that you would show to your most loved people.
Being lonely alone is better than being lonely in a relationship.
Final Words
Playing the victim blinds you to your own flaws and strengths. Self-love helps you rise out of your victimhood and claim agency. In that sense, self-love is not a luxury, but a necessity.
Let’s repeat this: Self-love is not zero-sum; you can love yourself and still love others.
Self-love makes you happy and satisfied, while also opening the door to giving others your love.
β Also Read: 10 Things Youβll Regret When You Are Too Old: Avoid Them
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