Happiness comes in many shades — the two of the main are Joy and Pleasure. They are different. And we need both. One for being happy now. And one for being happy while looking back over our shoulders.
The path to one is easy, almost effortless, but evaporates quickly. The other takes an effort to meet but lasts longer and grows fonder over the years.
So, what’s the difference between joy and pleasure? And why we say we must ask for joy more than pleasure?
The Pleasure: Lustprinzip
External rewards are the selfish cousins of happiness. And pleasure is often a trap.
As we compare ourselves to the achievements of our peers and think too much about the opinions of others, we become increasingly anxious and unhappy, or at least plain bored. Because we are focusing rather too strongly on external rewards. Like fame, fortune, position, clout, acquisitions, connections, Facebook friends. And money.
By now, you will have known that one can’t be happy for long if all they did was accumulate money – because, beyond the point where our needs have been met, more money doesn’t give more happiness.
Having more money, and gathering more “stuff” by its power, does not correlate strongly with satisfaction in our lives, as studies have shown.
In modern times, sudden failure of the markets and overnight wipe-out of our acquisitions have made us realize that trusting external rewards to give us lasting happiness is too wrong of a notion.
And the belief that our rulers – tribes, empires, governments – have secured our futures and fates does not comfort us for long. Especially when we see their policies slipping and interrupting our predictable lives with glaring shows of misrule and misery.
But why do we keep making the same miscalculation over and over – that “things and stuff” will make us content forever?
Because it is easy to come by.
It’s the path of least effort — to Lustprinzip, the Pleasure Principle. In trying to give our lives meaning – a reason for survival, we choose the mode of easy and instant gratification as a payoff for our daily grinds.
In its simplest form, it’s you slumped on your couch watching TV after a long, hard day. That’s you taking the path of the least resistance, and perhaps the most dissonance. Which is not meaning, but pleasure masquerading as meaning.
The Joy: Freude
Joy is the living soul of happiness. It is a sense of deep satisfaction that one can understand universally.
Joy involves us going beyond the plain limits of ourselves. Even though, by default, we keep preferring pleasure over joy. True joy is a feeling people have experienced across different geographies and cultures as a much more satisfying experience.
We get a sense of joy when we shift our attention to internal rewards. An internal reward is a sense of accomplishment from within. It is experiencing the satisfaction that comes from our actions.
Taking our minds to such points of internal focus results in a feeling of joy — a feeling that is enriching and lasting. This is enjoyment, rather than pleasure.
Now we have a fair idea of joy vs pleasure, let’s explore flow. With flow, you can get joy.
We can get to feel joy by entering the flow state.
Flow is a state of mind when we are so deeply and intricately involved in an activity that we lose the sense of time and ourselves.
Even before the term “Flow” got introduced to the world by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, people knew it. We have been using various terms across cultures to describe what we feel in such times – when we are ‘in flow’.
When he introduced it in 1975, Csikszentmihalyi defined Flow as “the holistic experience that people feel when they act with total involvement.” His groundbreaking research revealed how can we control Flow, not just leaving it to chance.
Other phrases describing Flow: being in the zone, optimal experience, absolute absorption, complete immersion, aesthetic rapture, full involvement, extreme attention, lost in the activity.Flow is a state when we're so immersed in an act that we lose not only sense of time, but also a sense of ourselves. Click To Tweet
Csikszentmihalyi speaks of traditional Melanesian sailors who, when floating in the sea, can surprisingly enter ‘the zone’. They “can be taken blindfolded to any point in the ocean within a radius of several hundred miles, and then, if allowed to float for a few minutes in the sea, are able to recognize the spot by the feel of the currents on their bodies.”
Such immersion and total concentration are so powerful they can release us from our self-consciousness, worries, and anxieties, and allow us to lose track of time.
When a survey asked 6,469 Germans, “Do you ever get involved in something so deeply that nothing else seems to matter and you lose track of time?”, the answers were:
- Often – 23%;
- Sometimes – 40%;
- Rarely – 25%;
- Never or Don’t Know – 12%.
Surveys on other populations revealed these percentages are quite stable and universal.
David Farmer, after attending a public lecture presented by Csikszentmihalyi in Sydney in March 1999, wrote an oft-quoted article on flow from the perspective of someone who was first presented with the concept by its Father himself.
In Flow At Work
Many people have reported that they get in a flow-like state more often when they are working and not when doing something else.
It may be explained by the fact that work is something that provides us with a challenge, makes us focus our attention, and takes our minds off our anxieties.
However, if you are not able to find periods of flow in your work naturally, you can try to set new goals of intrinsic rewards. Intrinsic rewards are not ones as the motivation provided by cash incentive or more power; rather such ones as setting higher standards of performance or finding more details about the job.
For getting into flow states at work, a few things to do could be:
- Challenging yourself to learn the last possible detail about your job.
- Accepting or even seeking out opportunities for newer or tougher tasks.
- Setting targets to finish your work better and faster than ever before.
And as your work-hours start to “fly” instead of being hammered out by the clock hands, you could see other positive fallout – as less procrastination, more popularity, and higher chances of promotion.
So, seek out new challenges at work, rather than just showing up and shuffling out by the clock.
Learn the inner workings of the most magical state of joy, the flow, here: How To Find Flow At Work.Seek out new challenges in work, rather than just showing up and shuffling out by the clock. Click To Tweet
- Live a life of purpose – one that’s meaningful to you, avoid being influenced by external rewards.
- Get your mind off the giant wheels of overthinking and anxiety, start to focus your attention on the present moment, being mindful of your present environment.
- Go into flow frequently, do more of what captivates you.
- “Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.” – Steve Jobs.
So, turn off the TV and get off the online social grid. Instead, engage with your friends, read up a book, write something, or challenge yourself to an activity which can get you “in the zone.”
Those who repeatedly invite flow experiences into their lives tend to be happier.Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. – Steve Jobs Click To Tweet
And, by the way, don’t try to find flow all the time. Rather, focus on finding joy in many other ways, instead of falling into the pleasure trap.
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Author Bio: Written and reviewed by Sandip Roy – a medical doctor, psychology writer, happiness researcher. Founder of Happiness India Project, and chief editor of its blog. He writes popular-science articles on positive psychology and related medical topics.
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