📅 17 May 2025 • 📖 8 min read
“Respect in relationships is a two-way process. Don’t expect too much if you don’t give out enough of it.”
Love is not always enough. While giving constant attention and care may be bad for you. Respect bridges that gap.
So, how to respect the other person for who they are, without overdoing or underplaying it?
Respect is foremost about how you make the other person feel. Ask them how they feel, simple.
For more, read on.
10 Little Ways To Show Respect In Your Relationships
Here are 10 helpful tips to show your partner that you not only care about them, but also look up to them.
1. Trust the person you’re in a relationship with.
Trust them. Show them that you trust them (until they break your trust).
People often think that trust is the same as security, but this is not true. Security is achieving certain relationship goals, like emotional or financial stability, and getting the desired outcomes, like a marriage or cohabitation.
Trust is their dependability on you for things you are supposed to do, what you say you will do, and what they expect you to do.
Trust does not grow overnight, of course. It takes many little acts over many units of time.
Reach out to a psychological counselor if you have difficulty trusting people. They may guide you if you’re right (and the other person is not trustworthy), or if you have unresolved issues from your past experiences.
2. Keep their needs high on your priority list.
If this relationship is the top of your list, then try to keep their needs at the top as well (that is, right in the neighborhood of your needs).
Make them feel valued and appreciated, to let them have a sense of belonging in the relationship.
Notice what they are doing good and praise them for it. Tell them how some of their qualities benefit you and others.
Relationships are not just about doing things together and fulfilling your duties, but also about needing the person they really are.
3. Show interest in their non-work passions.
Be curious about their interests at whatever stage your relationship is.
First, listen to what your partner tells you about themselves. Then, express genuine curiosity to know more.
Even if you’ve known your partner for years, make it a point to ask them what new interests they grew. It tells them you always want to know them better, and want to look up to them for what’s unique about their talents and passions.
People respect you for asking to talk about themselves. Simply ask, “Hey, what are your passions and fancies?”
You could show interest is by getting them meaningful gifts related to their passions.
If they mention that they enjoy football and gardening, take them to a football game or help them plant flowers in the garden the next time they visit. Ask them insightful questions about their creative pursuits, or watch their favorite shows with them.
4. Pay attention to what they have to say.
Actively listen to them when they are sharing their feelings and thoughts.
It’s not enough to remain silent when they need you to listen and understand what they are going through. It is about being fully present for them when things are going hard for them.
Keep your smartphone away and hold your monologues about yourself.
Don’t make sarcastic or trivializing remarks based on snap judgments. Show your commitment by genuinely wanting to understand their unsaid words, too.
Ask if you are unable to fully grasp something.
5. Be their cheerleader in their challenging times.
No relationship is smooth forever. Yours too will have its fair share of rage, jealousy, and despair.
Be their cheerleader when they are facing challenges in life.
Tell them, “I stand with you” before asking them what you can do for them. It will help them open up about their fears.
Unconditional love and support, and seeing any one person’s problem as “our” problem, will help you overcome those tough times.
The key to being supportive through difficult times is to give the person you care for what they need. They might need you to be open with them, listen to them, and show them that you want them in your life.
6. Create a respectful environment for people in your relationship.
Do your best to make them feel at ease around you.
Keep an open mind when you share your worries and fears. But don’t let the tough times overshadow your fun times.
Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” Those words are an excellent way to think about what you want from your relationship.
Build psychological safety in your relationship so that they can express themselves without fear.
7. Give autonomy to people in your relationship.
Autonomy is a basic human need. We all want to feel like we have a choice in our lives, and that we have enough freedom to make our own decisions.
For your partner to feel close to you, let them decide things and take risks. Assure them it is okay to make mistakes, as any other human being. Stand beside them when they learn from their falls.
We frequently play the role of the “controller” in relationships, telling our partner what to do, how to do it, when to do it, how often to do it, and how much effort to put in.
However, many people don’t realize that autonomy in a relationship does not mean one gets the right to “control” their partner. Instead, they must understand that people in a relationship are fully capable of controlling themselves, their decisions, and their actions.
Even if you believe they have too much autonomy, which may lead to them disrespecting you, do not push them around.
8. Give them the space when they need it.
Being in a relationship is wonderful, but it may be frustrating if one partner is always interfering in the affairs of the other.
Everyone needs moments for themselves from time to time. This holds true for any relationship. You must respect your partner’s need for personal space.
Not every little thing they do or intend to do needs to be shared with you. If they have a problem that they want to handle themselves, as long as it’s not affecting the rest of your life together, let them have their independent space to deal with it.
While it’s certainly important to be a good partner, it’s also vital to be a good person–and that requires a lot of self-love and self-care.
9. Solve conflicts with a positive mindset.
Conflict is inevitable in relationships.
The good news is that most relationship conflicts can be solved with a positive mindset. The bad news is that most people are still using the same old ways to solve relationship conflicts, like complaining and stonewalling.
This frequently results in the formation of negative attitudes in our relationships, which can lead to disrespectful and abusive partnerships.
What works better is applying positive mindset principles to help you get through the hard times. Like practicing gratefulness, being more forgiving, and adopting a “we both against this” attitude for all problems.
Learn how to build a strong, bulletproof, positive mindset.
10. Don’t expect too much from your partner.
Many people expect their partner to go above and beyond in every aspect of the relationship. They expect them to be their everything and don’t pause to consider why their partner can’t fulfill all their demands.
The truth is that you can’t always get what you want—at least not from someone else. Especially when it comes to relationships, you can’t expect your partner to fulfill all of your needs.
You can’t have them answer all your questions, correct all your mistakes, or do everything you desire all the time. Even in a life-long relationship, no one person can be everything to you.
Being a good partner means doing your fair share, but not expecting more than you’re willing to give.
Final Words
Respect is the key enabler of all successful relationships.
And the bedrocks of respectful relationships are honesty, communication, compromise, negotiation skills, and a commitment to meeting one another’s needs.
Couples often cite that the worst part of a relationship is fighting. In the heat of the moment, it’s hard to stay on point and refrain from making remarks that are hurtful to your partner. In these times, it is more important to act with respect rather than react.
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