We hear our parents, teachers, superiors, and even mentors, tell us: “Work hard, become successful, then you’ll be happy.” Although this sounds intuitively sensible, it is, regrettably, faulty.
You discover the truth only when you read it backward. You realize it’s happiness that comes before, not after, success.
Discover why happiness and success rarely go hand in hand, and what you can do to correct the equation. Find out why chasing happiness is better than running after success. Learn why it is important to focus on happiness first and then on success.
Let’s dive in.
Does Success Bring Happiness?
Success does not bring permanent happiness. Successful outcomes can give temporary boosts in happiness levels, but they do not last. Some events of success may even come at a devastating cost, often called the pyrrhic victories.
Success can be an individual or group property, while happiness is typically an individual experience. Even within a happy group, each person’s happiness is subjective in their own way and to their own limit. People usually tend to believe their achievements will make them happier, but research shows happiness is a precursor to success, not the other way around.
Professor Sonja Lyubomirsky, a pioneering positive psychologist, argues, “Happiness may not only be a consequence of success, but also a cause.”
Studies show happiness precedes success.
This study found college seniors reporting higher well-being received more follow-up job interviews three months later. Research by Brent Roberts at the University of Illinois found those who were happy at age 18 were more likely to work satisfying jobs and be financially secure by age 26. While this study found those more cheerful at the start of college had higher incomes.
Does Success Equal Happiness?
Happiness is a tricky goal to reach out for instead of going after success, particularly when you are living in a society that measures the level of happiness by the amount of success.
When I work hard and become successful, then I will be happy.
That idea above is what our society conditions us to believe as the ultimate truth. The one thing every one of us was told in our formative years was this: success = happiness. If you become successful, then you will be happy. It’s as if none of us deserves to be happy unless we are successful.
But that notion above is false. And that false notion has led people to slog it out for years in the quest for “success” — only till the inevitable reality sets in, that success and happiness don’t go hand in hand. This carrot-and-stick approach to happiness only leads to fleeting, scarce happiness. It adds pressure, stress, and negativity to every aspect of our life.
Success is important, of course. But what’s the point of achieving it if you had to compromise with your happiness in the process? Success does not guarantee happiness. It never had, and never will.
Success ≠ Happiness
What Does Happiness Really Mean?
People have diverse reactions to this question. Some believe there are far more vital things to worry about; others see happiness as essentially something every human ultimately wishes for in life. To explore the conflict between success and happiness, we need to begin by looking at what happiness really means.
We say happiness is about how good we feel in the moment. But actually, it’s more than just a passing mood.
Trying to lead a happy life is not always about denying negative emotions or pretending to feel joyful all the time. We all experience adversity, and it’s natural for us to feel frustrated, sad, angry, and other negative emotions.
As humans, we experience a wide range of emotions, both negative and positive, on any given day. Negative emotions—like anger and fear—help us defend ourselves by reacting with violence or escaping from danger. And positive emotions—like hope or faith—help us connect with others and develop our ability to cope when things go wrong.
Happiness is all about being able to bask in the good times, but it’s also about coping with the inevitable bad times. Or, in the wonderful words of the biochemist turned Buddhist monk Matthieu Ricard:
Happiness is a deep sense of flourishing, not a mere pleasurable feeling or fleeting emotion but an optimal state of being.
One prevalent misconception about happiness is that cheerful people are more likely to be lazy or inefficient. Research highlights that the truth is quite the contrary. Happiness makes us not only feel good, but it also opens up a wide range of benefits for our performance, relationships, health, and more.
Find out The Advantages of Happiness here.
Economists at Warwick University conducted research where one group of people were shown a comic movie clip, and the other set was asked to talk about their recent family tragedies. Both groups were asked to continue with standard workplace tasks.
The result of the study showed people who were conditioned to feel happy were 11% more productive than their peers.
Similarly, researchers at Wharton Business School discovered companies with happy employees outperform the stock market year on year. And a UCL research team found people who were happy as young adults ultimately earned more than their peers later in life.Happiness is a deep sense of flourishing, not a mere pleasurable feeling or fleeting emotion but an optimal state of being. – Matthieu Ricard, the "Happiest" person on Earth. Click To Tweet
Happiness Is Living A Life With Passion
Picture this. You graduated from college with a great GPA and landed a decent job right after college. You are efficient at what you do and get regular appreciation from your seniors.
You have traveled to quite a few places—basically wherever your work took you. They have paid for your flights and stayed for the business deals you brought them back. Unfortunately, in all this rush, you have missed out on a lot of things that success or money cannot provide.
You never got to sit by the seaside and enjoy the sunset. You missed the nightlife in a bustling city because you had early morning meetings to attend. Deadlines and important tasks that could not wait drove your life.
But did life wait for you? Can life wait for you? Probably not.
Instead of running after plans, you would be better off if you focus on fueling your passion. Take sufficient time out for yourself during those work trips and experience the best that a particular destination offers.
Your productivity will increase automatically if you are happy, and you will have a fresh approach towards everything you dabble in. You’ll understand it’s worth taking the time to get to know yourself and to figure out what you’re actually passionate about.
Happiness Is Being Content With What You Have
Are you constantly plagued by the thought of “not having enough”? Are you always chasing something bigger and better? At the end of the day, that kind of pursuit undoubtedly can leave anyone empty and tired.
And in that process, you are missing out on getting happiness from a lot of things you have right now. Instead of focusing on acquiring more, you need to shift your focus towards all you have in your life at the present moment. When you start sharing what you have, you find your happiness ratcheting up.
You don’t know what the future holds for you. Hence, it is unwise to carry out all your actions based on future projections. The present is where you can learn to live fully. But most of us ignore the present, this very moment, worrying about what might happen in the future.
Success Won’t Do Any Good To An Unhappy Person
The notion that success always brings us happiness is false. Science tells us it is better to focus more on being happy rather than on pursuing success for bringing us happiness.
Many of our challenges and problems will disappear if we focus more on happiness instead of success. Even the world’s most glorified and successful personalities are not infallible to the downsides of success after making it to the top.
Having your talents, skills, and beauty appreciated by the world is possibly the greatest validation you can have, but it can never be a cornerstone of your happiness.
Success is not a plateau; it’s a peak. And you can’t always balance a plank on a peak-point.
If the sole purpose of your hard work is to find happiness only after you have achieved success, chances are that you might have the opposite of what you have been looking for. You may reach the top only to find out you are not any happier than you were when you started. Chasing success while hoping to find happiness is a recipe for frustration.
Fortunately, there is a simple way to avoid becoming another front-page success-story-gone wrong. It’s this:
Find your happiness first.
Cultivate genuine happiness, joy, and enthusiasm for life before you succeed. Doing this will make all the difference. Because putting your happiness first is more important than success, as research shows.
Out of all the things you can accomplish in life, finding fulfillment is the most crucial thing to achieve. Happiness is the ultimate goal of all human behavior.
Whether you realize it, or not, the desire to be happy is the ulterior motive that guides everything on your list of ambitions. Whether it’s spending your life with the one you love, earning millions of dollars, becoming an entrepreneur, starting a family, moving to another country, or buying a new house.
Everything you do has an influence from that underlying desire to be happy.
- Does success bring happiness? No guarantee.
- Does happiness bring success? Yes, the chances are better, as research suggests.
So, it only makes sense to put your happiness above every other achievable thing in your life.Chasing success while hoping to find happiness is a sure-fire recipe to make yourself unhappy. Click To Tweet
Sure, you can strive for success. You can work hard for success. But don’t assume success will lead to happiness.
Focus on being happy at present. Be proud of where you are in life and who you are.
You can be happy now and still strive for more. This will help you bag accomplishments and perform better in many other aspects of life. And you will enjoy the ride as well.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination. Do what makes you happy.
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Authors’ Bio: John Mark is a teacher and motivational speaker. He has been part of many reputed universities as a guest teacher. He is also a part of AllEssayWriter as a paper helper. Sandip Roy is a medical doctor, psychology writer, and happiness researcher. Founder of The Happiness Blog, he writes popular-science articles on the psychology and philosophy of happiness.
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