‘Follow your passion’ is a often a misguided hope. Instead, the truth is you need curiosity for success and happiness in life.
You’re told to follow your passion. But what if the pursuit of passion isn’t a forever bridge to reach wherever you want to be in life? What if you need to pursue something else to feel happy and accomplished?
What if we told you what works better for success is curiosity — the intense childlike desire to unravel and learn new things?
What if, instead of spending sleepless nights thinking about what drives you, you should just explore everything with curiosity?
Curiosity is the desire to learn and explore new things, and find out how they work, without the baggage of past experiences or future expectations.
Why is curiosity important to achieve your goals and how it is critical for your success and happiness?
Curiosity-Driven Journey: A Real-Life Story
During one of Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday sessions, Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of the famous bestseller Eat, Pray, Love, revealed something surprising.
For long, Elizabeth Gilbert has been traveling around the world motivating people to find their passion. In her life, she has always been dedicated to what motivated her since childhood, which was writing and journalism. But, to her surprise, after several years of touring and motivating people, she found not everybody can achieve a passion-driven life.
After one of her performances in Australia, she received a message on Facebook from a woman who attended Elizabeth’s event that night. To her surprise, that woman wasn’t there to thank her for the motivation.
She was there to condemn Elizabeth’s beliefs about passion-driven life.
The woman told her how she spent years looking for her passion and never found any, and how emotionally drained she felt after Elizabeth’s speech that made her feel like a complete failure.
This made Elizabeth Gilbert completely rethink the value of passion in our lives. She started looking for something that brings more confidence and motivation and sparks a higher sense of purpose.
She found all that in curiosity.
Why Curiosity Beats Passion?
The fact that curiosity has a stronger effect than passion is explained by psychology and neuroscience. The American Psychological Association (APA) defines curiosity as:
The impulse or desire to investigate, observe, or gather information, particularly when the material is novel or interesting. This drive appears spontaneously in nonhuman animals and in young children, who use sensory exploration and motor manipulation to inspect, bite, handle, taste, or smell practically everything in the immediate environment.
The APA also names curiosity as one of the strongest assets to boost learning. You can see this asset in action in small kids, who use sensory exploration and motor manipulation to investigate the world around them and learn everything about it.I have no special talent, I am only passionately curious. — Albert Einstein Click To Tweet
Research on curiosity shows, as children get older, it can help them succeed in studying better and achieving higher academic goals.
A study by the University of Michigan investigated over 6,000 kindergarten kids to find the correlation between curiosity and academic performance. The study found children who were from low-income families but approached their studies with high levels of curiosity, performed as well academically as children from the high-income families.
The authors wrote:
Children with lower socioeconomic status generally have lower achievement than peers, but those who were characterized as curious performed similarly on math and reading assessments as children from higher income families.
The study suggests promoting curiosity may be a valuable approach to foster early academic achievement, particularly for children in poverty.
Why Is Our Brain So Hooked On Curiosity?
Our brain needs its own type of reward, completely different from financial or any other kind of accomplishment.
Neuroscience explains novelty-seeking reflexes have a substantial impact on the brain’s reward system. There are parts of the brain — caudate nucleus and inferior frontal gyrus — responsible for self-reported curiosity. Whenever we feel curious, we boost hippocampal activity in the midbrain.
All these difficult notions mean the same — we have curiosity built into our brains. This also means, when we’re driven by curiosity, it can change our behavior patterns and mindset.
In 2016, a group of researchers from the University of Wisconsin-Madison conducted a series of experiments that proved curiosity could even positively affect people’s choices.
When given a choice between something they already know and something unfamiliar to them, people chose to learn something new, and it made them feel more confident and accomplished.
As you see, all the research from psychology and neuroscience speaks in favor of curiosity and its positive effects on achieving goals.
So, the question is, why don’t people use it?
Is Curiosity A Lost Instinct?
We already mentioned curiosity is an inborn instinct that helps us investigate the world around us and learn from it in the early stages of life. However, this instinct seems to fade with time.
A look at some of the studies from psychology, sociology, and neuroscience, presumes several reasons for that:
We get new learning mechanisms. As a child grows, so does the brain.
Curiosity is an essential instinct at the beginning, where there is no other tool to learn about the surrounding world. But as a child grows, the brain develops new learning mechanisms.
The way we perceive information changes. With age, you can observe how your perception mechanisms change as well. Children often accept new information at its face value, while adults acquire a more critical way of thinking.
Society affects how we learn and act. As we grow and become more mature, we get socialized, and the process of socialization inevitably impacts how we make decisions.
As a result, the change in the biology of our brain and socialization process make us question every our choice instead of exploring them and learning from them. It mutes down our curiosity, and it’s hard to bring it back when you’re an adult.
However, curiosity can be brought back as a character trait, and there are some things you can do to train it.
• Did you know the feeling of Awe can create a deep state of curiosity in us? Take a peek at The Little Known Power of Awe.
Two Types of Curiosity
There are the two main types of curiosity:
- Perceptual curiosity
- Epistemic curiosity
1. Perceptual Curiosity
This is the type that we have when we feel the need to fill the gaps in our knowledge, or immediately solve some problem which catches us off-guard. As finding out what’s on the other side of a hole in a wall, or who the culprit is in a murder mystery.
Perceptual curiosity is primitive in nature and often co-exists with anxiety and fear, and results in satisfaction.
2. Epistemic Curiosity
This is the type that comes from a place of desire and purpose. This drives the inventors and innovators to reach brilliant solutions. It involves satisfying a curiosity for the pleasure of mastering a subject.
It’s closely linked to the anticipation of a reward, but not necessarily any financial gain.
We need both types of curiosity to have a happy and productive life.
Three Exercises To Develop Your Curiosity For Success
Here are some changes to your lifestyle that can bring back curiosity in your life. You’ll feel the effects of these changes in the long run, as you start noticing how approaching everything with curiosity will help you succeed and achieve your goals.
1. Reanimate Curiosity With Travel
Close your eyes and imagine the following:
You are getting on the plane and going to a strange place somewhere you’ve never been to before. How does it make you feel? Are you excited about exploring?
This is your hunger of curiosity reminding you of itself.
We all know traveling makes us happy. But it’s not always the long-desired opportunity to lie on the beach and have a rest from work. It’s about exploration. And exploration is what curiosity is about.
So, if you feel that you’ve run out of curiosity, take a trip. It doesn’t have to be abroad, but it should be a place where you’ve never been before. You can go to a local museum you’ve never visited, and learn as much as you can about the exhibit items there.
Find a destination you’ve always been curious about but never had a chance to visit. It will bring back your hunger for exploration. And as you do it more often, you’ll start applying this attitude to everything else you do.
2. Get Outside Your Comfort Zone Everyday
While we cannot go and discover a new place every day, we can still train our curiosity muscle by leaving our comfort zone on a daily basis.
It doesn’t mean that you have to spend tons of money on new things to discover every day. Even the simplest daily actions can bring back curiosity:
- Take a different route to work. On your way, memorize the names of the streets, explore the architecture of the building surrounding you. Try to observe every detail on your way.
- Change your workspace. If you’ve been sitting near the door for a long time, if you can, try to switch for a work desk near the window. This simple change can bring a spark of energy that you can put in your work.
- Try a different coffee drink. Are you drinking Americano every day? Try something different, a Cappuccino or Mocha coffee. As you explore new sensations, it will awake your curiosity and make you more open-minded to trying new things.
We’re creatures of habit, and go through the same set of actions every day. This is one of the big factors that kill curiosity. Getting out of your comfort zone daily can be an effective exercise to make you more curious and open to new experiences.
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3. Keep On Learning New Things
This change, although it seems easy, is very hard in practice.
We may acknowledge the importance of continuous learning for success, but we are all guilty of ignoring our natural hunger for learning.
Meanwhile, relentless pursuit of knowledge is the key factor that helps us approach everything we do with curiosity.
You don’t have to spend a lot of time learning new things. Even spending 20 minutes a day learning a new language or reading a book can be an easy and yet effective exercise to develop your curiosity.
The secret of curiosity is in having no expectations.
Our biggest mistake, perhaps, is we have a ton of expectations for every action we take. Even if you have a passion, you will feel drained if you find that it doesn’t leave up to what you expect from it.
This is the reason why curiosity is stronger than a passion. We explore things because we strive for knowledge, not because we are trying to benefit from them.
Thus, by approaching everything with curiosity, we make a shift in our mindset that eventually helps us achieve our goals and succeed in life.
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Author Bio: Ryan Pell is a passionate writer who likes sharing his thoughts and experience with the readers. Currently, he works as content editor and internet researcher, you can check his website. He likes everything related to traveling and new countries.
Editor Bio: Sandip Roy is psychology writer, happiness researcher, and medical doctor. Founder of Happiness India Project, and chief editor of its blog.
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