5 Proven Strategies To Love Yourself & Feel More Fulfilled

— Researched and reviewed by Dr. Sandip Roy.

Learning how to love yourself is one of the most non-negotiable steps in the pursuit of personal growth and happiness. If you’re not loving yourself, it’s hard to do either of those things well.

There are a few issues we face when it comes to self-love, like remembering our past mistakes, thinking of how others evaluate us, and prioritizing the needs of others.

However, we can nurture self-love without feeling guilty or narcissistic. It takes a few proven strategies to change our outlook and learn to value our worth and like the “me” in us unabashedly.

Let’s embark on this transformative journey together to find inner peace, resilience, and joy.

Learn How To Love Yourself, From Research

Each strategy below is grounded in psychological research and serves as a stepping stone towards more self-love.

1. Treat Yourself with Kindness and Compassion

Self-compassion is treating yourself with kindness and understanding, just as you would treat your best friend, even when you make mistakes or experience difficult emotions.

To be more in self-love, practice being gentle with yourself, especially in difficult times.

Studies suggest that those who are kinder to themselves tend to have more mental peace and better mental health. They show less anxiety and depression.

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This study found that there were positive correlations between self-esteem, positive self-compassion, and hedonic and eudaimonic well-being.

Simply said, it means that people who have higher levels of self-esteem and positive self-compassion also tend to have higher levels of happiness.

The researchers found that positive self-compassion is more important for happiness than self-esteem.

Here is a table that summarizes the findings of the study:

FactorCorrelation with well-beingPredictive strength
Positive self-compassionPositiveSignificant
Negative self-compassionPositiveNot significant
Self-esteem vs. Self-compassion

2. Show Unconditional Self-Acceptance

Self-acceptance is perhaps the most vital step to self-love.

Self-acceptance is the act of accepting yourself for who you are, flaws and all.

It means acknowledging your strengths, but not overlooking your weaknesses, and recognizing that you are worthy of love and respect, just as you are.

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Self-acceptance is the foundation of self-love. If you cannot accept yourself, it will be difficult to love yourself. However, once you accept yourself, you begin to see that your flaws are part of what makes you human.

This doesn’t mean condoning bad behavior; rather, you work on those areas, but without self-judgment. This enhances your overall self-esteem.

3. Get Rid of Your Perfectionism

Perfection is an unattainable illusion that can lead to stress and decreased productivity.

Studies show that perfectionism can lead to anxiety, depression, shame, and even suicidal ideation.

Acknowledge that it’s human to err. Use each error as a stepping stone to improve.

“Perfectionism is not the path that leads us to our gifts and our sense of purpose; it’s the hazardous detour.”

– Brené Brown

4. Value Yourself Beyond Physical Appearances

Physical appearance doesn’t define self-worth.

Valuing oneself should be based on inner qualities, such as kindness, honesty, and resilience.

Research shows that basing self-worth on external factors like appearance can lead to negative mental health outcomes.

5. Fully Experience All Emotions

Allowing yourself to feel emotions, both positive and negative, is key to understanding and accepting yourself.

“Life is like a piano. The white keys represent happiness, the black show sadness. As you go through life, remember that the black keys make music too.”

– Unknown

Research suggests that emotional suppression can lead to an increase in mental distress. Accepting emotions without judgment can improve mental wellbeing.


6. Ignore Others’ Opinions, Focus on Your Own

While feedback is important, you shouldn’t let others’ opinions define you.

“Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.”

— Steve Jobs

People’s opinions are often based on their own beliefs and experiences, not an objective assessment of their worth.

Maintaining your focus on self-assessment fosters self-dependence and confidence.

7. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Comparison can be a thief of joy.

Each person’s journey is unique, influenced by different circumstances and experiences.

Studies suggest that social comparisons can lead to feelings of inadequacy.

This study found that women who were more responsive to personal cues (i.e., who were more likely to experience emotions in response to their own bodily sensations) had lower self-esteem and satisfaction with their weight after viewing slender models.

This is because these women were more likely to compare themselves to the models and to feel inadequate in comparison.

In contrast, women who were less responsive to personal cues had higher self-esteem and satisfaction with their weight after viewing slender models.

This is because these women were less likely to compare themselves to the models and were more likely to focus on the positive aspects of their own bodies.

Cherish your individual path.

8. Cut Away Toxic People from Your Life

Toxic relationships can greatly harm your mental health. Distance yourself from those who consistently bring you down.

It doesn’t need research to show that toxic relationships can lead to stress, anxiety, and reduced self-esteem.

Prioritize relationships that uplift you.

9. Rely on Your Decision-Making Abilities

Believe in your capacity to make good decisions.

Each decision you make is based on your personal experiences and wisdom.

Your trust in your decision-making process enhances self-confidence and fosters self-efficacy.

10. Show Boldness, Build Confidence

Boldness is acting in spite of fear.

“Courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”

— Nelson Mandela

Each brave action reinforces your self-belief and adds to your confidence bank.

Moreover, bold actions can lead to success, which further strengthens your self-esteem. spite of fear.

Each brave action reinforces your self-belief and adds to your confidence bank.

11. Prioritize Your Needs

Putting your needs first isn’t selfish; it’s self-care.

Self-care practices have been found to reduce stress, improve mood, and increase overall life satisfaction.

Nurturing your own needs forms the basis of a healthy relationship with yourself.

12. Seize Life’s Opportunities

“Opportunities are like sunrises. If you wait too long, you miss them.”

— William Arthur Ward

Active engagement with life’s opportunities enhances your self-esteem.

Whether it’s about professional growth, personal development, or recreational activities, dive in.

The proactive approach not only increases your competence but also adds to life satisfaction.

13. View Mistakes as Growth Opportunities

Every mistake is a learning opportunity.

Instead of brooding over what went wrong, analyze your mistakes, learn from them, and adapt.

This mindset promotes resilience and a continuous learning approach.

14. Embrace Your Fears, Grow Stronger

Fear is a natural response, but it shouldn’t stop you from growing.

When you face and embrace your fears, you also find ways to build strength and resilience.

Successfully managing fears can increase personal satisfaction and overall happiness.

This study found that there was a remarkable link between self-esteem and fear of success, meaning that people with lower self-esteem were more likely to have a fear of success.

The researchers also found that there were gender differences, with female managers being more likely to have a fear of success than male managers. This is likely due to the fact that women are often socialized to be less assertive and to focus on relationships rather than on achievement.

The researchers suggest that the fear of success can lead to anxiety and stress, which can have a negative impact on physical and mental health.

15. Find Beauty in Life’s Simplicity

There’s beauty in simplicity and ordinary moments.

Noticing these can foster mindfulness, appreciation, and joy.

This practice, often associated with meditation and gratitude, has been shown to have numerous psychological benefits, including increased self-love.

Final Words

One, or more of these 15 proven strategies will help you cultivate self-love, manage your fears, and find joy in life.

Start today on the road to fostering kindness, resilience, and self-confidence.

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