How Long Does Love Bombing Last?

Love bombing is like a teaser that promises a fluffy romantic story but turns out to be a dark survival drama.

The love bomber is like a prince who rescues the cursed princess from an impenetrable tower only to imprison her in his torture chamber.

What is love bombing in dating?

Love bombing is “bombing” or overwhelming someone with extravagant gestures and words of affection and appreciation. A love bomber’s affection borders on obsequiousness, and their appreciation is plain flattery. It is frequently displayed by narcissists and those with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD).

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The telltale signs of love bombing are endless streams of gifts, compliments, future promises, and pleasant surprises. The love bomber ultimately tries to overwhelm the person they are dating into acquiescing to the love demands.

How Long Does Love Bombing Last

How long can love bombing last?

Anecdotally, love bombing can last from 3 weeks to 6 months. An un-cited study claims the grandiose and the covert narcissists in their survey both love bombed for around 25 weeks. According to the same study, the malignant narcissists love bombed for 9 weeks, while the communal narcissists love bombed for 32 weeks.

Finally, there appears to be no fixed time limit for love bombing, and it continues until the person is seduced, or they thwart the love bomber’s overtures.


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The end of narcissistic love bombing is marked by either the start of controlling behavior, or if thwarted or ignored by the victim, desertion or intensifying their love bombing.

What is the purpose of love bombing?

The purpose of love bombing is to make the recipient feel dependent on and indebted to the narcissist. It is a way of establishing control over the victim by overwhelming their senses. It makes the victim feel guilty or selfish for not reciprocating the show of love.

For grandiose narcissists, love bombing is the first stage of manipulation, when the victim lowers their psychological boundaries.

This leads to the next stage of their scheme: asking for a narcissistic supply.

Once the victim agrees to be their chosen partner, the narcissist starts demanding and extracting constant adulation and validation from them to satisfy their sense of entitlement and grandiosity.

For the covert narcissists, love bombing can mean showing gestures of love in a hopeless and naive sort of way. So that the victim often feels,

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“Oh, what would happen to them if I do not rescue them from their pathetic life!”

Strangely, when the covert narcissist exploits them later through power play, the victim may think they have rescued them out of their pitiful state to a person wielding authority.

How does love bombing work?

The technique working underneath the phenomenon of love bombing is manipulation.

The love bomber subtly manipulates the victim into shutting down their rational mind and igniting the human impulse to repay gestures of love with love.

Every act of love bombing has the neurological design to deliver a rush of dopamine into the brain, which habituates the victim into seeking more dopamine rushes.

Is love bombing always bad?

Love bombing is not always bad. In fact, it can be good if the person is a communal narcissist, that is, they draw acclaim and fame by volunteering for charitable and altruistic deeds in their community.

They often donate to good causes and participate in activities like marches supporting a group, like BLM and Pride walks. They invite the person they are dating to go to charitable and philanthropic events.

FAQs

How long does a narcissist love bomb?

The grandiose and covert narcissists both love bombed for approximately 24.50 weeks, the malignant narcissists did so for 9 weeks, while the communal types love bombed for 32 weeks, according to an un-cited study.

How do I know if I’m being love bombed?

Watch out for the red flags such as receiving frequent and expensive gifts, being overwhelmed by compliments, excessive admiration for even small achievements, constant communication and demands for frequent meetings, intense sadness at your past or present miseries, pushing for early commitments, breaching of psychological boundaries, and a sense of unease and un-freedom about the intensity of the wooing process.

Final Words

If you think you are being love bombed by someone, whatever their gender, and you are unsure whether it is true love, infatuation, or love bombing, consult a mental health therapist. Seek expert help to resolve your dilemma and save yourself before the narcissist takes control of you.

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Author Bio: Written and reviewed by Sandip Roy—a medical doctor, psychology writer, and happiness researcher. Founder and Chief Editor of The Happiness Blog. Writes on mental health, happiness, positive psychology, mindfulness, and philosophy (especially Stoicism).


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